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TEDで1000万再生を記録したスピーカーSimon Sinekのよる愛とは??英語朝活vol.3

「Whyから始めよう。」「リーダーは最後に食べなさい。」などの著書を書き、TEDトークでは1000万回再生を記録したSimon Sinekという方はご存知ですか?

 

 

 彼はイギリス生まれのアメリカ人で、現在コンサルタントとして働いています。

 

いままで国連、外交官だけでなく、マイクロソフトなどの海外大手企業の研修なども担当しています。

 

 

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このTEDは世界中で1000万再生もされています!

 

この動画は朝活では使いませんが、リーダー、組織論、教育に興味のある人はぜひ見てみてください!

 

 

今回の朝活ではこの動画に関連したディスカッション問題を作っています!

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愛とは?リーダーとは?という本質的な話をしていてめちゃくちゃ面白いです!

 

少し文章が長いので、イラストが多く、4分程度でまとめられた動画も貼っておきます!

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本文

Do you love your wife?

 

Yes.

 

Prove it. Like, what’s the metric? Give me the number that helps me know, right? Because when you met her, you didn’t love her. Now you love her, right? Tell me the day that love happened. It’s an impossible question, but it’s not that it doesn’t exist, it’s that it’s much easier to prove over time. Right? Leadership is the same thing, it’s about transitions. So, if you were to- if you were to go to the gym, it’s like exercise, right? If you go to the gym, and you work out, and you come back, and you look in the mirror, you will see nothing.

 

And if you go to the gym the next day, and you come back and you look in the mirror, you will see nothing. Right? So clearly, there’s no results, can’t be measured, it must not be effective. So we quit. Right? Or, if you fundamentally believe that this is the right course of action, and you stick with it, like in a relationship: “I bought her flowers and I wished her a happy birthday, and she doesn’t love me” clearly I’ll give up. That’s not what happens.

If you believe there’s something there, you commit yourself to an act of service.

You commit yourself to the regime, the exercise. You can screw it up. You can eat chocolate cake one day, and you can skip a day or two, you know. It allows for that. But if you stick with it consistently I’m not exactly sure what day, but I know for sure you’ll start getting into shape. I know it. And the same with the relationship.

It’s not about the events, it’s not about intensity, it’s about consistency. Right? You go to the dentist twice a year, your teeth will fall out. You have to brush your teeth every day for two minutes.

What does brushing your teeth twice a day for two minutes do? Nothing! Unless you do it every day, twice a day, for two minutes. Right? It’s the consistency. Going to the gym for nine hours does not get you into shape. Working out every day for 20 minutes gets you into shape. So the problem is, we treat leadership with intensity. We have a two day off-site, we invite a bunch of speakers, we give everybody a certificate, you’re a leader! Right?

 

Those things are like going to the dentist. They’re very important, they’re good for reminding us or getting us back on track, learning new lessons, but it’s the daily practice of all the monotonous little boring things like brushing your teeth that matter the most.

She didn’t fall in love with you because you remembered her birthday, and bought her flowers on Valentine’s Day. She fell in love with you because when you woke up in the morning, you said “Good morning” to her before you checked your phone.

She fell in love with you because when you went to the fridge to get yourself a drink, you got her one without even asking. She fell in love with you because when you had an amazing day at work, and she came home and she had a terrible day at work, you didn’t say “Yeah, yeah, yeah, but let me tell you about my day.” You sat and listened to her awful day, and you didn’t say a thing about your amazing day. This is why she fell in love with you.

I can’t tell you exactly what day, and it was no particular thing you did; it was the accumulation of all of those little things that she woke up one day, and as if she pressed a button, she goes “I love him.” Right? Leadership is exactly the same. There’s no event. There’s no thing I can tell you you have to do that your people will trust you, it just doesn’t work that way.

 

It’s an accumulation of lots and lots of little things that anyone by themselves is innocuous and useless. Literally, pointless by themselves. People will look at little things that are good leadership practices and say “That won’t work,” and you’re absolutely right.

 

But if you do it consistently, and you do in combination with lots of other little things, like saying good morning to someone, that looking them in the eye … my friend George, was a three-star General in the Marine Corps, he says his test for leadership- and I love this, he goes, his test for a good leader is if you ask somebody how their day is going, you actually care about the answer.

 

The number of times we’re walking to a meeting, we’re rushing, we go “How are you?” “Not good, I gotta get to you later, I’m late for a meeting.” If you asked the question, you were standing there and you were listening to the answer, it’s those little innocuous things that you do, over and over and over and over, that people will say “I love my job.” Not “I like my job,” I like my job means “Yeah, the challenge is great, they pay me well, I like the people.”

 

“I love my job” means “I don’t want to work anywhere else. I don’t care how much somebody else is willing to pay me. I’m devoted to the people here and I care desperately about the people here as if they were my family.” In business, we have colleagues and co-workers. In the military, they have brothers and sisters. That’s how they think of each other. Right? If you really have a strong corporate culture, the people will think of each other like brothers and sisters. “It’s like a family,” right? No. Brothers and sisters.

 

Deep love. Fight, but the love doesn’t go away. Bicker, the love doesn’t go away. And I’ll fight with my sister, but if you threaten my sister, you’re going to have to deal me.

 

Right? We’ll fight internally, we’ll bicker with each other, but nobody’s going to hurt each other, and if anything from the outside shows up, you’re looking at a unified front. Brothers and sisters.

 

Now, how do you create brothers and sisters out of strangers? Common beliefs, common values, you know, parents- in other words, executives, who care about their children’s success. Who care to raise their children, teach them skills, discipline them when necessary, help them build their self-confidence so that they can go on and achieve something more than you could have ever imagined achieving for yourself.

 

That’s leadership. An absolute love and devotion for the people who’ve committed their lives to this enterprise. It’s a human thing. So, just as you know how your body feels after a good workout and you know how your body feels after a big greasy meal, you know that one is good for you, and one is not. Despite what it may taste like. And that’s the problem with short-term gains, right? They feel really good in the short-term.

 

We’re highly, highly, highly trained social animals, we’re highly adapted social animals, you know, we can feel social awkwardness and we can feel when things are going well, you know, you can sense it. You say you have this sense of laughter, you know, around the office. We don’t walk around with blinders. Like I said, we’re made to do this, you know, that’s why we can “assess” if somebody’s trustworthy or not. It’s why we keep our walls up, like, “eh, yeah, his results are great, but I wouldn’t trust him, you know?”

 

As opposed to letting down you’d be like, “I’d trust her with anything. I’d trust her with my kids, my money, anything.” You know? So we’re highly attuned animals, we’re good at sensing it, but I will say there is a caveat to your- to your metric of laughter, which is a decent one. Is that, scale breaks things. In human beings. As I said before, we’re not made for populations bigger than about 150-ish. It’s called Dunbar’s Number?

 

Robin Dunbar, a professor from Cambridge University theorized that we cannot maintain more than a hundred- about, 150 close relationships. And the way he defined a close relationship is if you’re at a bar with a bunch of friends and somebody comes in, would you ask that person to join you or not.

And we- it’s about 150 that we would ask them to come join us. And if you think about the reason, that actually makes perfect sense, which is those two limiting factors: One is time, if you only gave two minutes to every person you know, you’d make no close friends; and the other one is memory. You just can’t remember everybody. And so this is where leadership becomes very, very interesting. Because if you have a company that has a lot of people, five, six, seven, 800 people, 1000, 2000, 5000 people … clearly, you can’t know everyone.

 

And clearly, as a CEO, like, “I care about every single one of my people.” You don’t even know. Some of the people who you work for are real but who work for you are bastards. You don’t care about them. Right? So it’s a nonsense statement. But what you can say is “I desperately care about the people whose names I know and whose faces I recognize. And I care desperately about my leadership and I instill in them, every day, that I will give them the tools, and I will take care of them with one purpose and one purpose only, that they will take care of the people in their charge. And I want those people to take care of the people and instill in them that they take care of the people in their charge.


And then by the time you get down to the masses, where the actual thousand exist, because the seniors, it’s like 20.

 

Where the real thousand exist, they feel. About 150 of them can look to one of their direct leaders, to one of their direct managers, and say “That person cares about me. That’s our boss, that’s my boss, that’s my leader.” Not “the” leader, it’s “the” CEO; that’s “my” manager, my boss, my leader.

The one thing I am comfortable saying that all effective leaders must have is courage. Because it is hard. It is hard to stand up against outside pressure.

It is hard to stand up to an external constituency who is pushing you to do something for their short-term gain, to do the right thing for your people. It is hard. It is thankless. It is lonely. Sometimes you get fired. Sometimes you get in trouble. Sometimes you’ll lose your job, and the next guy will get all the credit. It’s all true.

And the courage to do the right thing in the face of overwhelming pressure only the best leaders have that courage. Only the best leaders.

And here’s the folly: Courage is not some deep internal fortitude. You don’t dig down deep and find the courage. Right? It just doesn’t exist. Courage is external. Our courage comes from the support we feel from others. In other words, when someone- when you feel that someone has your back, when you know that the day you admit you can’t do it, someone will be there and say “I gotcha. You can do this.” That’s what gives you the courage to do the difficult thing.

 

It’s not going off to an Asharan by yourself somewhere for four weeks and coming back and finding the courage- it’s not what happens. It’s the relationships that we foster, it’s the people around us who love us and care about us and believe in us, and when we have those relationships, we will find the courage to do the right thing. And when you act with courage, that, in turn, will inspire those in your organization to also act with courage. In other words, it’s still an external thing. That’s what inspiration is, right? I’m inspired to follow your example.

 

But, those relationships, that we foster over the course of a lifetime, will not only make us into the leaders we need to be and hope we can be, but they’ll often save your life. They’ll save you from depression, they’ll save you from giving up, they’ll save you from any matter of, you know … negative feelings about your own capabilities, your own future. When someone just says “I love you.”

 

 重要単語

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transition 推移 変遷

work out 運動する トレーニングする

fundamentally 根本、根源的に

commit yourself to ~すると約束する、~することを決意する

regime 政治形態 (強圧的な)政権、政府

screw up めちゃめちゃにする、台無しにする、大失敗する

consistently 矛盾なく、つじつまが合って

get into shape 身体を鍛える

intensity 強烈さ、激しさ

a bunch of たくさん、大量、多数の

certificate 証明書、検定証、修了[卒業]証書

monotonous 単調な、一本調子の、変化に乏しい

particular 特定の、個別

accumulation 蓄積、集積、積み立て

innocuous 無害の、無毒の、害のない

corporate 法人の、企業の

bicker 口論する、言い争う

unified 一つにまとめられた

executive 幹部、重役

discipline 規律、統制

devotion 献身的愛情

enterprise 企業、事業、参加

greasy 脂っこい、脂っぽい、脂肪分の多い

social awkwardness 社会的不適応

let down 期待を裏切る、失望させる、がっかりさせる

attune 同調(調和・適合)させる

bastards 不愉快な(嫌な)やつ、ろくでなし

desperately 必死に、是が非でも、喉から手が出るほど

instill (主義・思想などを)吹き込む、教え込む、植え付ける

constituency 支持者、後援者

thankless 感謝されない、ありがたく思われない

fortitude 不屈の精神、堅忍、不屈、勇気

foster ~を発展させる、~を育成する、~を助長する

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ディスカッション問題

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1.It’s not about the events, it’s not about intensity, it’s about consistency.

She didn’t fall in love with you because you remembered her birthday, and bought her flowers on Valentine’s Day. She fell in love with you because when you woke up in the morning, you said “Good morning” to her before you checked your phone.

She fell in love with you because when you went to the fridge to get yourself a drink, you got her one without even asking. She fell in love with you because when you had an amazing day at work, and she came home and she had a terrible day at work, you didn’t say “Yeah, yeah, yeah, but let me tell you about my day.” You sat and listened to her awful day, and you didn’t say a thing about your amazing day. This is why she fell in love with you.

Do you agree with this statement? Why? Why not?

 

2. His test for a good leader is if you ask somebody how their day is going, you actually care about the answer.

What do you think about this statement? 

 

3.“I love my job” means “I don’t want to work anywhere else. I don’t care how much somebody else is willing to pay me. I’m devoted to the people here and I care desperately about the people here as if they were my family.”

What's your opinion about this statement?

 

4.When someone- when you feel that someone has your back, when you know that the day you admit you can’t do it, someone will be there and say “I gotcha. You can do this.” That’s what gives you the courage to do the difficult thing.

Have you worked as a leader before?

If yes, what was difficult being a leader?

If not, who were good and bad leaders for you?

 

 

 

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毎週火曜日に7時から大阪のグランフロントで英語の朝活をしています!

 

なるべく多く英語を話して聞く時間を取っているので、スピーキング・リスニングのスキルを伸ばしたい方は是非参加してみてください!

 

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